It took me a very long time to figure out how I live with depression. How I live, not survive. For years, I just did what it took to get by. I wasn't really appreciating the life I had or living it to its full potential. So I am beyond thrilled to be sharing how I live on purpose, because I finally figured it out.
What does living a life of meaning mean?
There's this magical moment in goal coaching, where someone finds their spark. It's a moment where their whole body changes. It vibrates positive energy. I remember the first time I felt it in myself and I especially remember the first time I saw it in someone I was coaching. The 'ah-ha' moment of figuring out what you truly want to do in life -- what you are meant to do. Living a life of meaning is following that path of doing what you truly want. When you are true to yourself and connected with who you want to be in this world, you can contribute to it in the most meaningful way. When you feel fulfilled and authentic, you are living a life of meaning.
How do you identify your spark?
For me, it has always come in meditation. Sometimes, it is quietly sitting on my bedroom floor, thumbing my mala beads with a candle burning softly beside me. Deep breaths in that quiet moment give me time and space to look inward and reflect on the important questions: how do I want to show up in the world? Who do I want to be? Other times, it's in guided goal coaching meditation. Being guided to ask myself the questions that can be the flame to ignite that spark. It all comes together in that quiet moment.
Guided meditations are really great if you're just starting or feel really disconnected from yourself. There's one available in the authentic goals toolkit available to in a sequoia subscribers and I really recommend going through the entire toolkit to reconnect and find that spark.
How do you not get caught up in "doing it all?"
Opportunities behind every door in this world, and it's a beautiful thing. But to find balance, we need to know when to say no. Which is okay. People often feel guilt when saying 'no', and it's a hard process to let this go. We first have to realize that to bring meaning and purpose to a project, we must be able to bring our best self. But if we are involved in 'it all', this is an impossible task. It begins to reach a point where you're doing more harm than good when you don't say 'no'. Find the balance.
Often I ask myself if the opportunity aligns with who I want to be and if it helps me get closer to reaching my goals. Or is the opportunity something that lights me up in a whole new way that I feel my vision and goals changing? Does this keep my spark burning?
And remember, it's also okay to need space and take a breather every now and then.
Be sure to check out Danielle's new book, The Soul Sessions, and all of the other incredible and inspiring blogs over the next month. November has truly become a time for rejuvenation thanks to her initiative and the dedication behind it.